We all have goals, plans, dreams for our future that we reallllly with sprinkles on top, want to come true. We somehow, some way, get stuck and just cannot figure out why our planted flowers of prosperity have not yet bloomed. Limiting beliefs, lies we tell ourselves, and excuses that we tell others are often to blame for our Goal Chasing false-start. No worries soldier, this is an ailment that I have the remedy for. In order to fix the problem, we must first identify it. I list below seven of the biggest excuses stopping you from conquering your goals. If you are ready for some harsh realities, read on.
1. I Don’t Have the Time.
Let’s knock the most frequently used excuse out of the way, with the hopes that it does not escape your lips again – “I don’t have the time.” When someone says that they do not have the time, what they are really saying is, “This is not all that important to me.” The reality is that we have the time, each of us, to do the things that matter. Chasing our goals should always be one of those things that matters.
We find the time to watch mindless television, to play on our smart phones and tablet devices, don’t we? I don’t need to see your schedule to tell you that you have the time. You are taking the time to read this blog post – after an eternity of browsing on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, or web surfing, huh? Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad you are here and would love for you to stay, but I need for you to see that you are spending time online that could easily be used to conquer the baby steps to get you closer to that huge step you need to take. So if you are reading this and use the “I don’t have time” excuse, do better.
I posted a picture last year on my personal Instagram page that read, “You have as many hours in a day as Beyonce.” The same holds true for Bill Gates and Oprah Winfrey. Twenty-four is that magic number that we all share sugar plum (that’s you), and the reality is if any of the aforementioned individuals used this excuse when pursuing their goals, we would not know their names. From now on the only thing you should say that you do not have the time for is negative people and useless excuses. Checkmate.
2. I’m not Good Enough.
Often on the road of goal chasing, fear and self-doubt creep in. This is a normal reaction when stepping out of your comfort zone and should not be a deterrent, rather a confirmation that you are doing something right. If your goals set don’t scare the crap out of you, then they are not nearly big enough – go back to the drawing board and set the bar higher. You owe yourself this. Self-doubt is an ugly monster and its favorite meal is your success. Not only are you good enough to accomplish that which you have set your mind out to do, no one else can do it like you. You are a special breed super star (that’s you again), so rare that only one of you has been created. If you have something on your heart, please believe that it is meant for you and no one else. We must stop telling ourselves the falsehood that we are not good enough, and replace that with the phrase, “I deserve it all.” Until we stop playing victim, our dreams wait patiently around the corner praying that the day will come when we begin acknowledging our worth.
3. I’ll do it Tomorrow.
We have all heard the old adage, “Don’t put off tomorrow, what can be done today.” So I shouldn't have to tell you that tomorrow never comes, right? Why push our goals further and further away when we can get to them now? Not soon. Not tomorrow. Now.
If something is important to you, and living the life of your dreams should be, then roll up your sleeves and get to work today. No excuses allowed in the Goal Chasers Club. We're still cool, right?
4. I Don’t Have the $.
Here’s the thing, having zilch in your wallet sucks. I get it, but we have two choices here, to complain about it or to wake up and do something about it. Can you guess which one gets you the quickest results? Ding. Ding. Ding. The universe has an amazing way of partnering with us when we are on the road to chasing our dreams. Speaking ill about money problems never improves our finances and drains the energy of everyone around us who is forced to listen. We must make a way, not an excuse, if we wish to succeed. Get a new job. Ask for an increase. Cut Spending. Get on your knees and pray. Begin speaking abundance into your life. Whatever you do, do not complain.
Steve Harvey, Daniel Craig (James Bond), Steve Jobs, Dr. Phil, Halle Berry and Tyler Perry have ALL been homeless. Despite what seemed to be the obvious (lack of money), they remained prisoners of hope and focused not on the lack, but on their potential to achieve. Now if that doesn't inspire you to quit complaining and chase that goal, I don’t know what will. Tony Robbins once said, “Life would pay whatever price you ask of it.” Are you asking the right questions?
5. It is too hard.
Goal Chasing is hard, make no mistakes about it. We must ask ourselves if the sacrifice of a little hard work is worth the reward of achieving our wildest dreams. The answer should always be, heck yes! No one ever promised an easy road, and what fun is a road without a few twists and turns anyway?
We have to learn to appreciate the bumps, stumbles and falls for what they are – lessons that help us to grow (if we learn from them) and great stories to share once we overcome them. Saying something is “too hard” is the weakest cop-out as we are not given anything that we cannot bear. Think for a moment about all those hard times that you didn't think you would get through. And here you are. You are already a survivor!
It all boils down to just how bad we want it, because if we want something bad enough, no amount of hard work (and certainly not any lame excuses), will stop us from achieving it.
6. I Don’t Need to do Anything /
Goals are a waste of time.
Hogwash. People who feel that goals are not needed and “what’s meant for me, will be for me” without taking necessary action, are fooling themselves. I sincerely hope this is not you. I'm a strong believer in accepting and receiving all that is meant for me, but I am an even bigger believer in assisting that which is meant for me with conscious action.
If a million dollars was on the other side of town for you, you would quickly get up off of your tush and do whatever it takes to get there, wouldn't you? Achieving your goal may not have a monetary value, maybe you want to lose 100 lbs, the premise remains the same. Take the necessary steps to get there. Goal planning is the first step to achieving any dream. You do not know where you are going without a map - after all, this colossal goal set (remember, we agreed it must be big enough to scare you?) is uncharted territory. Don’t be a fool – goal plan and take action.
7. Other People Will Judge Me.
Oh they will, no doubt about it, but why should you care? Are they paying your bills? Are they a determining factor that makes or breaks your happiness? The sad reality is that there will be naysayers and Negative Nancies around every corner on your road to chasing your goals, judging your every move - you cannot let this stop you.
Successful people uplift one another, they understand that it’s a team sport. People who aren't doing much with their lives (and want you to follow suit) will attempt to discourage you, don’t let them. You are the only person capable of giving up your power, hold it near and dear to your chest and keep on trucking. Even Jesus was judged, so what chance do you stand? Stay focused on your road ahead and soon they will be asking you for tips.
Here’s a tip, share this link with friends to ensure they aren’t sabotaging their success. After all, goal chasing is a team sport.
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Until next time sweet pea,